Part 1 of this series can be found here.
Part 2 of this series can be found here.
Part 3 of this series can be found here.
At this point, my daughters and myself wear skirts and dresses 90% of the time. Honestly, it is freeing! I used to become so aggravated pulling up low cut jeans that tend to wiggle their way downward. If I wear skirts that hit below my knee I can get up and down from the floor without any problem whatsoever. As a momma to preschool children this is a must for me. I always wear leggings underneath my skirts. I wear tight workout shorts underneath my skirts in the summer. This prevents chaffing, and is so comfortable. I’m very cold natured to begin with, and I feel like I am wearing soft, stretchy pants covered in a blanket on cold days. I love it!
Why do we wear skirts, you might ask? Aren’t pants just as modest? What does the Bible say about this?
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…
1 Timothy 2:9
This verse says that women should be modest. It doesn’t address whether women should wear pants or dresses at all. From this verse, I would say that as long as our apparel isn’t too tight, flashy, and covers our body efficiently, we are good.
A woman shall not wear man’s clothing, nor shall a man put on a woman’s clothing; for whoever does these things is an abomination to the LORD your God.
Deuteronomy 22:5 (NASV)
This scripture clearly states that women and men shouldn’t cross dress. But, didn’t both men and women wear robes which looked like dresses in Bible times? I’ve heard it discussed that men wore a type of pants underneath their robe, and women did not. Women’s robes were also longer. This verse doesn’t convince me that skirts are mandated for women however, since men and women’s apparel was quite similar during that time frame.
What this verse does tell me, is that God likes a distinction between clothing for men and women. In our day and age, skirts and dresses are distinctly feminine. I love my Lord, and want to be pleasing to Him. If skirts and dresses “might” please Him more, that’s what I will strive to wear.
One of the other main reasons that I usually wear skirts is feminism. When I grew up, feminist thought was very prevalent. Once I became a mother, I became disgusted that so much of my life was wasted trying to achieve goals that really didn’t matter. One of the things that feminists fought for was the ability to wear pants. By wearing skirts, I feel like I am publically professing that I am more than happy in my traditional gender role. I could care less if I have the same “rights” as men, am paid the same amount of money as men, etc. I wouldn’t want to be “equal” to men in the least. God created men and women distinctly different for a reason. Although my calling might not look like my husbands, it is still incredibly important.
*Disclaimer: I realize that spiritually in Christ we are all one. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28) However, while physically on this earth, men and women do have separate Biblical roles to fulfill.
A few other reasons I wear skirts include:
Eye Tracking Survery Concludes that Men’s Eyes are Drawn to the Crotch
Several years back an eye tracking study concluded that men’s eyes are naturally drawn to the crotch. I can easily solve this predicament by wearing a modest skirt or dress. In an article about this phenomenon, it is quoted, “Still, she says the strike-zone glance isn’t necessarily a sign of sexual attraction. Instead, men might be pre-programmed to check out their competition or determine whether someone (or something) is suitable for mating.” I would rather my girls and myself not be checked out to determine if we are suitable for mating!
Less Rude Comments About Our Family Size
I’m sure that fellow large families understand my thoughts on this one. Before wearing skirts almost exclusively, I used to get a lot of unwanted comments concerning our family size. Comments such as:
”Don’t you know what causes that?”
“I can barely handle my two, I feel sorry for you.”
“Don’t you own a television?”
“You sure have your hands full.”
Since wearing skirts, these comments have decreased tremendously. I guess people figure that we must ascribe to a strange religion, and therefore no longer try to wrap their minds around why we have six children.
They are More Forgiving During Pregnancy and Post-Pregnancy
If I purchase flowing skirts, they are looser around my figure than pants are. They easily accommodate my changing body. After pregnancy and childbirth, my weight usually fluctuates up to 20 pounds and skirts remain flattering. Pants that used to be perfectly loose and modest, can quickly become not so modest if I gain 5-10 pounds.
Men are More Polite
Men treat me differently. They are more polite in public, hold the door open for me more often, etc.
Some ladies are afraid that they will look frumpy if they wear modest skirts and dresses. Modest clothing can be very fashionable and trendy however. I’m loving this new style now available at Deborah & Co. How cute is this?
Do we ever wear pants?
We wear shorts and pants if we are outside sometimes. Shorts/Pants are a must while riding bicycles for safety reasons. I wear pants with tall boots if walking through our woods since we have tons of ticks that I most definitely am not fond of! We wear long shorts or pants to amusement parks.
Our family is still figuring out the best way to be modest, and to be pleasing to God with our clothing. We strive to be pleasing to God in all things. We feel like this also protects our daughters from unwanted male attention.
To view our family’s current view of Modesty, click here. I will be sharing about other modesty guidelines our family adheres to next week.
I hope that you have found encouragement from our journey! Pants definitely can be modest too, if worn loosely and with discretion. A good way to make pants more modest is to pair them with a long shirt!
What does modesty look like for your family?
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