In our culture, most families have two to three children. Normally congratulations are in order for child #1 and #2. When child #3 makes their appearance, most families are asked the question, “So, you’re done, right?” Subsequent children can be greeted with incredulousness and even pure disdain. This reaction is hurtful from strangers. When family members react this way however, the results can be downright devastating.
As of right now, I have six children and am expecting my seventh blessing in September. When expecting babies three, four, and five, I received a particularly negative reaction from one close family member. I began emailing this person to announce pregnancies instead of telling them face-to-face or even over the phone because the reaction was so very hurtful. These negative reactions can put a damper on what should be a very happy time, which really, is just plain wrong.
What should you do if your own extended family disapproves of your family size? The first impulse that we might have is to lash out in anger ourselves. But would this solve the problem?
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