When the 50 Shades of Grey book was released some time ago, many of my professing Christian friends sang it’s praises. I actually was defriended on Facebook by several people because I called it pornography. Well, it looks like the movie release is now imminent, and I really feel the need to speak out against this movie. A warning bell needs to be rung for my Christian sisters!
I truly am not trying to condemn anyone, that is not my job. It is my job however to “expose darkness” for what it truly is. Many Christians say that they are not interested in the movie, or that they find it to be silly, but they aren’t calling it what it really is. Sin. If we do not keep our gaze fixed on Christ, we can easily become desensitized to the sin of the world. If we ever begin to think that any type of fornication is “normal” then we must repent and turn our eyes back to Jesus and His Word.
So, is this just a harmless movie?
I will walk in my house with a blameless heart. I will set before my eyes no vile thing.
Psalm 101:2-3 (NIV)
From the book Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney:
So can we say like David, “I will walk in my house with a blameless heart”? Have we purposed not to see, read, or hear any vile thing? Or are we taking liberties where we shouldn’t? Do we watch any unwholesome movies or television programs? Do we read worthless materials–such as romance novels or magazines–that tempt us to sinful fantasies? Do we listen to ungodly music that stirs up impure thoughts? If we answered yes to any one of these three questions, we must expunge these practices from our lifestyle. p. 90
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Not only should we abstain from watching immoral movies, but books and songs with the same message as well. In 2 Timothy 2:22 we are told to “flee youthful passions,” and 1 Corinthians 6:18 admonishes us to “flee sexual immorality.” The word flee indicates that we must do more than just walk away slowly. We are to turn quickly and totally from this temptation.
Although Psalm 101:2-3 speaks pretty clearly about keeping our eyes focused on purity, I also would like to note that Jesus was also pretty clear that adultery does not include only physical acts.
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Looking is all it takes, ladies. That is all! If we look to anything other than our husbands with thoughts of desire, than we are sinning. The same goes to single women. Those thoughts should be saved for your future husbands alone.
I know that for many of you, your husband might look at pornography. You might think, if he does it, why shouldn’t I? I looked for statistics regarding pornography use in men just a few minutes ago. The articles and results I found were very disheartening. Any article that I looked at quoted that basically all men have looked at pornography at one time or another. And pornography isn’t the only problem here. Last week I was unloading groceries into our van and I overheard a conversation between two married couples walking to their vehicle. One man said something like this…Yeah, we are married, but I look at girls all the time! I look at their b**bs and their b**ts, and everything in between that strikes my fancy. It’s normal! I literally wanted to cry for the wife who quietly walked by his side. We are currently reading through 1 Thessalonians during family devotion time, and we came to a passage about sexual immorality and defrauding. During the conversation, my husband said that he is around married men through work who comment on other women’s body parts on a regular basis. If a number of men make comment, just imagine the many more who have the same thoughts and do not voice them! (Which is all the more reason to dress modestly.)
If you are a Christ follower, no matter how hurtful your husband’s actions might be you must flee from any of the same temptations that you may face while steadfastly praying for your husband. Seek Godly counsel from your pastor and his wife. We can find comfort in the following verse:
No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.
1 Corinthians 10:13
God is faithful, and He is our Redeemer! He can (and will) completely transform our lives. If we do not have a problem with 50 Shades of Grey and believe that we are a Christian, then we probably need to reevaluate some things. Sisters, this book and movie should grieve our spirits! Get into God’s Word, and ask Him to lead you. In Hebrews 13:18, Paul writes, “Pray for us, for we are sure that we have a clear conscience, desiring to act honorably in all things.” May our desire also be to act honorably in all things!
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Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
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