Facebook. To some it is good, to others, it is plain evil. It can be a time stealer and marriage destroyer. About one year ago I was ready to throw in the towel for good. I truly didn’t see how any goodness could come from Facebook. After a six week break, I returned, but with a fresh perspective.
While for some, Facebook just isn’t worth it. I totally respect that, and I have been there! At the same time, there is tremendous potential to reach others for Christ on this platform. When I’ve made that my focus, as well as changed a few settings on my computer, I feel like I can use it in a God honoring way.
I would love to share a few strategies that I have found helpful while using Facebook!
- If you are married, share one joint account. Friends, I cannot tell you how many stories I have heard about divorces occurring after a former flame looks up an old boyfriend or girlfriend. Sharing an account is a way to keep accountability with your spouse.
- Unfollow, but do not unfriend, those who share inappropriate content. Those who share this content need you as a friend. At the same time, scripture commands us to remain focused on purity. When we unfollow, but do unfriend, others can still see our sharing Christ but inappropriate content will not show up in our newsfeed.
- Limit your time. Facebook can steal time that rightfully belongs to our families. Setting time limits (and sticking to them!) will solve this problem. If need be, remove the facebook app off of your phone so the temptation isn’t quite as strong. If the temptation is just too hard to bear, stepping away from Facebook entirely might be the best solution.
- Choose likeminded ministries and blogs to follow for encouragement. I find so much encouragement from ministries, blog, and homeschool groups that show up on my facebook newsfeed.
- Stay focused on others, and not on yourself. While it is nice to share photos of your family to your friends, excessive selfies (of only oneself) can be an indicator that your focus is in the wrong place. Instead write encouraging notes on other’s timelines.
- And finally, the absolute, most important thing that you can do on Facebook is:
Share Christ and Keep Focused on Him!
The truth of the matter is, Christ should be the center of absolutely everything. We can use this platform to share the gospel, scripture, and other amazing Christian resources with others. God can use you mightily when we focus on Him, others, and not on ourselves.
We must remember that if we claim to be a Christian, then others are watching us. And sadly, most of them are hoping that we will not remain in Christ. While none of us is perfect, we really need to remember that we are Christ’s ambassadors! If we stay focused on Him while online, then we will keep our good witness.
While this is true for all Christians, it is especially true for those in ministry positions, like pastors/elders. We recently left Berean Baptist Church where I honestly would not have admitted that our Pastor Jerry Slate was our pastor based on his Facebook life. Yes, I know that this is a major problem, but I waited on my husband to make the final decision for us to leave. God is good, and as soon as I stopped worrying about the situation we left within one week!
I would also like to share a little story about something that happened in my life that really brought the importance of our witness on Facebook to my attention. Pastor Jerry Slate also posted on Facebook that he had taken his eleven-year-old son to a movie that was rated PG-13. I looked up this movie on Focus on the Family’s Plugged-In, and while it wasn’t all bad by any means, there was some language and innuendos mentioned. In our family, if there is anything in this nature in a movie we avoid it. I try to ask myself, “If Jesus was physically sitting next to me on the couch, would I watch this?” Anyhow, I questioned this practice after I saw that my pastor watched a PG-13 film, and my husband and I rented one the next weekend. Needless to say, we turned it off within the first 10 minutes! While I believe that this pastor should not have watched this movie in the first place, if he would have kept this information off of his Facebook page, and instead have focused on Christ and his family, then the thought to put mild vulgarity in front of our eyes would have never occurred to me or my husband.
Ladies, if we stay focused on Christ in all we do (including Facebook), He will be glorified, and our witness will remain intact. If we use Facebook, let’s try to keep this in mind.
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