A Note About Josh Duggar

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I don’t know about you, but I have thoroughly enjoyed watching 19 Kids and Counting for quite some time now.  It has been my favorite TV show for as long as I can remember.  As such, I have been deeply and totally saddened by the news that Josh Duggar has admitted to molesting his sisters and a family friend twelve years ago.  I can’t say I was totally surprised, though.  I heard “sin in the camp” rumors tied to the buzzed haircut Josh sported in one of the very first television specials aired.

I’ve heard the outrage on both sides.  Some are gloating over the fact that Josh has fallen from public grace.  Others are like, oh don’t worry about it, everyone sins and he is forgiven.

But is this the right response on either side?  You can read the 33 page police report here.

I hope that…

Josh realizes it was not a “young teenage mistake.”  Don’t sugar coat it.

Josh and Anna will stop focusing on him (as Anna’s public statement especially implied), and instead pour all of their efforts and sympathies into the pain the victims might feel by these allegations being brought to light.

The victims realize it was not their fault.  I pray that they don’t listen to the vile things people are sharing on their social media accounts.  Please leave them alone unless you plan to offer support.

Josh might realize that sin really does follow you.  It has wrapped it’s clutches around everyone’s hearts.  None are immune.  Praise God that in Christ, we are forgiven!  But we can’t pretend that offenses never occurred.  We must man up and take responsibility.  If we are about to take a high profile position at Family Research Council for instance, we should say, hey, there is something you need to know about my past, and then decide to hire me.  Repentance includes transparency.

Jim Bob and Michelle understand that writing books about living for the Lord and starring in a very popular reality show wasn’t the smartest idea if they weren’t willing to share this struggle and repentance before agreeing to do so.  Otherwise you look like hypocrites.

Jim Bob and Michelle realize that placing a (repentant) abuser back into the home environment probably wasn’t the best choice.  That shows a lack of respect for your daughters.

Mr. Keller might realize that when screening potential suitors for Anna (as was customary in their home), he should have understood that if this type of fiasco was left hidden (when the sinner was in a very public position), then it.will.follow.them.  It has followed Josh, and will now effect both Anna and Josh’s children.   I hurt for Josh’s children so much. 

The victims in all of this are the girls who Josh violated and his own children.  Can you imagine what they will someday read about their own father on the internet?  We need to not only pray, for them, but for all those who are involved.  Including Josh.  He is no worse a sinner than me.  I say this as a victim of the same type of abuse on a school bus long ago by a boy one year older than I.

As awful and painful as this is, the Duggars should have made this public knowledge long ago if they were to have a public ministry.  God will (and has!) used the greatest sinners to further His kingdom…but again, transparency should be involved.

I for one, do not care to watch Josh Duggar on television ever again.  But TLC, if you insist on canceling 19 Kids and Counting, could you at least give Jill and Jessa a spin-off show?  Pretty please?

 

 

Written by Nicole

NICOLE CRONE enjoys writing encouragement for moms in which God is glorified at her blog, Children are a Blessing. She is wife to Rusty, and mom to eight sweet children. Nicole has been a homeschool mom for thirteen years, and is currently a member of The Old Schoolhouse Review Crew. When Nicole isn’t homeschooling, you can find her writing, reading, sewing, or blogging at www.childrenareablessing.org. She is active on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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NICOLE CRONE enjoys writing encouragement for moms in which God is glorified at her blog, Children are a Blessing. She is wife to Rusty, and mom to eight sweet children. Nicole has been a homeschool mom for thirteen years, and is currently a member of The Old Schoolhouse Review Crew. When Nicole isn’t homeschooling, you can find her writing, reading, sewing, or blogging at www.childrenareablessing.org. She is active on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

15 Thoughts on “A Note About Josh Duggar

  1. This is the best response to this that I have read (and I have read a few). Thank you for sharing.

  2. Meredith on May 22, 2015 at 10:27 pm said:

    I agree, especially with the part about there being a need for total transparency if they planned on having such a public ministry. I also personally feel the statements made by all three parties were very Josh focused; whether intentionally or not, it minimized not only the seriousness of what he did but also the respect and concern due to the victims.

  3. KatieH on May 23, 2015 at 1:09 pm said:

    “Mr. Keller might realize that when screening potential suitors for Anna (as was customary in their home), he should have understood that if this type of fiasco was left hidden (when the sinner was in a very public position), then it.will.follow.them. ”
    Josh told Anna and her parents about what happened 2 years prior to his proposal to her. They were well aware of what had happened. It wasn’t left hidden from those that needed to know. It just wasn’t broadcasted, like is has been now.
    So very sad over all this.

  4. I agree with the other comment above–this is the best response I’ve seen, and expresses just what I’ve been thinking.

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  7. bethany Lacey on May 23, 2015 at 7:10 pm said:

    Thank you so much for sharing! God bless you for a beautiful display of righteous indignation and grace! Everyone should read this!!

  8. I agree with you, although I have not watched one show of the Duggars. This is a great example how we should first look to Yahweh for a good example and the walk of his son Yahshua and not man first. I have heard people say what a great family they are without even knowing them personally and as if they know them personally. I am not saying they are not but we don’t know them… Only see what they want to show on tv. Great to learn from others and be edified and learn from mistakes and sins but we should not put any family high on a pedestal when done, they are sure to fall….. Man fails….. My opinion on having a reality show as a believer…. We shouldn’t to be blunt and to the point. They sign a contract and I don’t think signing a contract to Hollywood or producers ect. is ever a great idea… My sister in law thinks that I am like his wife Anna…. I know she means it as a compliment but I was created to be Amber not Anna LOL

  9. Rebecca on May 25, 2015 at 2:09 pm said:

    Very well said. I clicked on this worried I’d read another post dismissing this as a boyhood mistake. These people are being willfully obtuse. Forgiveness does not absolve the need for accountability, and if individuals choose to forgive the Duggars they still have a responsibility to be discerning in their dealings with the family, including whether or not they watch them on television should TLC choose to keep them on. The blind and enthusiastic allegiance people display toward the family is frankly disturbing at times.

    I find it alarming that this occurred in the first place. No mentally healthy individual turns to incestuous molestation. Disrespecting your parents, cheating on tests, even things like petty theft can be attributed to teenage mistakes. What Mr. Duggar did is perverted and raises questions as to what’s been going on in that household.

    While I understand that this occurred over a decade ago, Christians cannot act shocked and defensive that the public is (rightly) outraged.

  10. The Duggar family seems to surround themselves with people who have problems with their sexuality. Their “family mentor” was a man named Bill Gothard, who resigned from his own ministry because over 30 women came forward and said he sexually harassed them. The Arkansas State Trooper friend who “helped” Josh when they went to the police is now in prison for child pornography. When all of this happened, the Duggars should have removed themselves from TV and dealt with it, but they didn’t. They hid it and kept going. What’s the motivation? Money? Fame? Hiding your sin for money and fame certainly does NOT promote their faith. I lose respect for the Duggar family completely.

  11. It’s like the shame that King David bought to the LORDS’ name with Bathsheba. He repented and God used him, but he gave reason to a lot of scoffers to mock God because of his actions. Yes Josh was no king, but was very high profile….

  12. Jessica on May 27, 2015 at 7:54 am said:

    Thank you for such a honest, balanced article on the subject. I completely agree with you! Most folks seem to either want to crucify him or indulge him…..first sensible opinion I’ve read. This is also another example of why Christ should be the only One we follow. Blessings to you and your family!

  13. Sarah on June 3, 2015 at 12:42 pm said:

    Please read Lori Alexander’s blog posts regarding this topic. She is a Godly older woman with some beautiful insights. She does not know me and did not ask me to post this comment.
    Bless you, sister.

    • Nicole on June 3, 2015 at 7:58 pm said:

      Thank you for sharing, I took a look at the blog post you mentioned, and I highly disagree with most of it. Blessings!

  14. Amanda on June 25, 2015 at 12:33 pm said:

    Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.

    Colossians 3:12-15 (NLT)

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