In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…

1 Timothy 2: 9

Once we become a new creation in Christ, our outward appearance should mirror our inward change.  Praise God for this change!   In no way do works produce salvation.  I am not suggesting that in the least.  However, once Christ captures our heart, our desire to please Him and to follow His Word should intensify.  Dressing modestly is a biblical way to take attention off of us and point to Christ instead.  Modesty might look a bit different to separate individuals, so we need to keep that in mind as we show grace to our sisters in Christ.

Anyone who loves another brother or sister is living in the light and does not cause others to stumble.

1 John 2:10 (NLT)

Although as Christian ladies we are not accountable for others actions, we are called to not cause others to stumble.  If we knowingly wear clothing that might cause a brother to stumble that is sin.

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a women to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Matthew 5:28

Ladies, let’s try our very best to wear clothing that will not cause our brothers in Christ to lust!  We need to lay aside our pride and wear clothing that personifies our new relationship with Christ.  Jesus has done so much for us, the least that we can do is live our lives for Him.

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24 Thoughts on “Modesty

  1. It is a very sad thing that here in the Philippines, a majority of young girls dress immodestly. I think it’s really all about modelling. What do they see on TV and the movies, magazines and on the street? Maybe one day there will be a backlash and we will all go back to wearing modest clothes. Not too modest I hope (long sleeves and high necklines!) It is very HOT here! patsy

  2. I just found your website and appreciate your words here on your blog. May they be a source of encouragement to many women looking for a friend on their own “modesty journey”! I’ve written about modesty and why I wear skirts on my own blog too. It seems to be one of my more popular posts these days. 🙂 God bless!

  3. Inga on June 27, 2013 at 4:53 pm said:

    Hello, I really have enjoyed this series so far,, I have been reading along, and have thought a good deal about wearing skirts more often, the things that I am not so sure about yet are, I work with mostly muslim families, I wonder how that will affect the relationship, I still want to stand out as a christian, and not have them think that I am giving into their culture, The other thing, I only have a bike as my main transportation, and skirts aren’t practical to wear at all while riding a bike, it is hard for me to even try wearing skirts, because of said reasons, but I am looking more and more into it, and I will continue praying about it.
    Thank you for your honesty and for talking about modesty on your blog, I really appreciate it.

  4. Danielle B on August 7, 2013 at 5:21 pm said:

    I think if you really believe a man will not lust after you because you are covered from head to toe, you are lying to yourself. There are men who lust after the Amish and Mennonite women for their choice of dress.

    I take appropriate measures to be covered,I don’t go over the top. I think by going over the top I what you wear and saying “look at how modest I am” is really IMmodest. It’s like saying how humble you are, lol. You aren’t humble if you have to say it.

    • Nicole on August 7, 2013 at 5:31 pm said:

      It’s our job to dress the way God would like us to. If we do that then the trouble in a man’s heart is between him and God. Saying that dressing modestly (a long or knee length skirt, loose fitting pants that at least hit the knee, and a shirt that does not reveal cleavage) is immodest is a cop out and seems to me an excuse to continue sinful behavior.

  5. I LOVE this series! I didn’t really think about modesty until I started going to the church that changed my life toward the Lord 3.5 years ago. I am however overweight and so did cover myself somewhat. I now cover myself even more and actually think about what I am wearing now. However I still only wear dresses/skirts to church. Thank you for your posts! I think I will be wearing skirts and dresses more often now! I am very short (4’10”) so most of my dresses that are supposed to be a bit shorter come to (at the shortest) my knees. 🙂 Again Thank you! 🙂

  6. Sarah Bethany on September 24, 2013 at 3:24 pm said:

    Stumbled on your blog – you seem like a lovely, gracious, sweet, kind woman… but I wanted to put in my two cents about one statement, in case it helps any other females out there:
    “Ladies, if we are wearing clothing that could in anyway cause a man to lust, that is wrong! ”
    No: women, you are NEVER, ever, ever, ever, EVER to blame for a man thinking inappropriately about you (i.e., thinking about you as a sexual object). You could walk out your door naked (even purely with the desire to be treated as a sexual object!) and you STILL deserve (by right of being a human being) to be treated with respect and dignity. MEN control their actions, not you. MEN control their thoughts, not you.
    You never cause someone to rape you.
    You never cause someone to hurt you.
    You never cause someone to think badly about you.
    That is ALL ABOUT THEM. People who do wrong things are 100% to blame for their own actions. Not you. NEVER you. “Modest”, “immodest”, or totally naked. 🙂
    Thank you 🙂 ….moving myself along. Just didn’t want to see more women guilted with our culture’s rape mentality. It’s too easy even for the most well-meaning of people to fall into.

    • We are all responsible for the choices we make, whether it be dressing immodestly OR rape. We shouldn’t dress in a way to cause a brother to stumble. That being said, no matter how we dress, immodest dress is never a reason for a man to commit a rape. Blessings to you!

  7. Nikki Rose on November 14, 2013 at 7:41 pm said:

    Hi! I have also been feeling the need to dress more feminine and modest. I wear khaki pants with wonderful feminine tops. I want to start adding more skirts to my wardrobe as well. I am “4 6” and as a grown woman look silly in ankle length skirts ,however ,to the calf is fine. I can’t seem to find any nice denim or khaki skirts to “stockpile” so I can start wearing them more. Any help on where I might locate one?

  8. I love reading about how God showns the importance of modest to other women. I started wearing skirt at the age of 16 and growing up I heard good comments and bad comments but to me all I wanted was to please my Lord.

  9. What a lovely site with topics close to my heart. How sad I was however, to read Inga’s comment above which basically suggests her Muslim acquaintances may read her adoption of more modest clothing as giving in to their culture. Dear Inga, and other modest, Christian, women – do not look upon your Muslim sisters as being modest because of Muslim ‘culture’. Muslim women dress modestly because we have very clear guidelines in the Qur’an, just as Christians do in the Bible. A good Muslim woman will admire a good Christian woman who chooses to dress modestly, but most importantly, she will respect you for your decision. There are many misconceptions about the relationship between Christianity and Islam, but as someone who has lived in both religions, I urge you to look at the similarities and not fall for the media-driven tendency to depict Muslim women as a different species. Nicole – I applaud your efforts to spread the word about modesty on your website and love your tips and advice – the parallels between your stance and various blogs, websites, etc, by young, modern, Muslim women are amazing and heart-warming.

  10. My husband preached on modesty recently, so I blogged about it. It’s something I think is so important, but so overlooked by many Christians. This is my post.

  11. How sad, with all the sorry and hunger in the world, that women focus on criticizing other women and worrying about how they dress.

    Go out and work in a homeless shelter. You’ll see some real issues there.

  12. Ami honeycutt on March 28, 2016 at 9:41 pm said:

    I found your videos on youtube and watched all of them this afternoon. I am 28 years old with 2 kids and have been finding myself moving more and more toward dressing more modestly. I love my skirts and tshirts and so much happier when I where them. My daughter is 8 and has mentioned wanting to start wearing skirts too. She will be going to church camp this year and I don’t know how skirts and being active at camp would work.

    • Nicole on March 29, 2016 at 5:05 am said:

      Hi Ami! Personally, my daughters wear semi-loose fitting Bermuda shorts when riding their bikes or playing hard outdoors. I honestly find this to be the more modest option for trampolines, bikes, etc. Otherwise, they wear leggings underneath cotton skirts during play. Thank you so much for stopping by, and I hope your daughter has a great time at camp!

  13. Sue Dot on June 7, 2016 at 9:08 am said:

    Hello. It’s nice to find modesty is becoming more popular these days. I always look out for longer dresses with sleeves and am finding these more easily lately. Add a shrug and a camisole if the neckline is low. Next up is to grow my hair longer again, after hacking it off at a low point in my life, to regain my femininity.

  14. Going to an Eastern country that has preserved its culture over the centuries will solve the pseudo dilemma of both genders wearing robes. It is obvious from a long distance which is whom, even with ‘robes.’ Pants is an issue in Western Christianity because, having seen an obvious distinction in feminine and male attire for centuries, it is a fairly recent phenomena for women to appropriate manly dress AND seek to discard feminine attire. Many European secularists are more honest than some Christians in the USA, as they have voiced how utterly shameful and ridiculous it is for a female to have not even one skirt or dress in their entire wardrobe. I am thankful you have brought this discussion to the forefront. Traditionally in all cultures world wide women have worn long, loose, flowing garments. Even African tribes, Amazon tribes, etc. if one looks back into their culture it is true that at one point women wore long, loose, layered, flowing and men wore what they needed to in order to hunt, gather, provide, protect. In the East, (incidentally, where Jesus grew up) a knee length tunic with loose flowing pants underneath to the top of the foot, and enclosed toe shoes was the garment of a lady for every day life. I find it hypocritical for people to speak of how tribes in the deep jungle of wherever are uncivilized, etc. because they bear all and such, and yet here where we have abundance in so many ways, we are finding ways to justify removing more and more clothing. There are definitely two parts to the modesty platform, and throughout the comments both have been challenged. I think one can hold to the Bible, not discounting Deuteronomy, and address both parts of modesty, that is, in regards to one’s relationship to God and His Word/ laws, and that which regards one’s relationship to other people, without having to resort to one’s own feelings or opinions to lessen the effect of the counter cultural message we glean from the Bible. Thank you again for your balanced approach.

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  16. Whitney on August 4, 2016 at 10:46 pm said:

    I just recently found your youtube channel and this blog. Tbh I’ve actually spent way more time than I should reading/watching your blog/vlogs. Lol. Everything I’ve seen so far has been so encouraging to me. I have six little girls, so the modesty thing has been hitting me hard. I’ve actually been struggling greatly for several years trying to figure out if converting to skirts/dresses full time is the right thing to do for our family. At this point I feel like it is.
    Do you have any advice to offer as far as this being a struggle?

    • My only advice would to be if you feel it is right, then to do your best to follow the Lord’s leading. He is faithful, and will help you make the transition.😊

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