Love v. Fear of the Lord in a Christian Mom’s Life

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Today is the third day that my family has been stuck at home due to snow and ice in north Georgia, and tomorrow is Valentine’s Day.  Since I am good at procrastinating, I have not a thing prepared for my husband, so it looks like a homemade card it will be until I am able to brave the roads!  With Valentine’s Day around the corner I have been thinking about God’s love for us, our love for God, and it’s place in our lives.

God is love.  The greatest commandments are to love the Lord with all of our soul, mind, heart and strength and to love our neighbor as ourselves.  If we do not have love, we are nothing.

However, in Christianity today there is a trend to focus only on God’s love.  The verses about love and liberty are the ones that we like to quote.  I did a quick search and discovered that the Bible contains approximately 393 verses about love (which is about 1.26% of scripture).  While this is a huge number, about 99% of scripture isn’t directly about love.  We can’t just leave these verses out while we learn about the Lord and who He is.

One of the main problems with focusing only on God’s love for us, is that it leads to a “me-centered gospel”.  While it is true that God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son, so that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16), this is not the end purpose of the gospel.  The purpose in all things is that God be glorified!  It is not so much about us, but about God’s purposes being fulfilled through Jesus Christ, and us glorifying the Lord in all we do.  When we only think of love, if things in our world go wrong we question God, and His goodness.  We believe that He either turns a blind eye at what has happened (which He hasn’t….if He did then He wouldn’t be God), or that He might not truly love us like we thought He did.

Likewise, if we only do things for the Lord out of love for Him, (and not fear), when things aren’t quite right we might not “feel the love” so much and stop seeking Christ as we should.  Only thinking about love results in an emotion-based relationship that might not be grounded in true faith.

If we only think about God’s love for us, our egos can begin to puff up.  We must be pretty wonderful for God to love us, right?  But we have to remember that while God is loving, merciful, and kind, He is also righteous, holy and just.  He chastises His children, and through scripture we see that we should have a healthy fear of the Lord.

This fear isn’t a “terrified” type of fear, but rather an awe of God’s majesty and sovereignty.  He created all things, His purposes for all things will be carried out, and if we even caught a glimpse of the Lord we would perish because His majesty is so great.  While love can be emotional, fear is more grounded in rational thought.  It leads to the knowledge that God is ultimately in control of all things, and asks us to give up our own desires for God’s ways even when it hurts.

Fear of the Lord leads to wisdom.  How many of you ladies desire wisdom in our roles as Christians, wives, and mothers?  Fear of the Lord leads to this.

Fear of the LORD is the foundation of wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in good judgment. -Proverbs 9:10 NLT

Fear of the Lord leads to life. 

The fear of the LORD leads to life, and he who has it will abide in satisfaction; He will not be visited with evil.  – Proverbs 19:23 NKJV

We also need to remember that God chastises the ones He loves.  Let’s take a look at Hebrews 12:5-11:

And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:

“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives.”  If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?  But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.  Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?  For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness.  Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Ouch.  I definitely do not like the thought of being chastened, but the Bible is clear that if we are not chastened, then we are not true children of God.  My love for God, along with healthy fear and a knowledge of chastisement drives me to please Him, and to live my life for Him.

While we should love the Lord with our entire being, let’s remember that fear of the Lord is actually a good thing that leads to life and wisdom.

Written by Nicole

NICOLE CRONE enjoys writing encouragement for moms in which God is glorified at her blog, Children are a Blessing. She is wife to Rusty, and mom to eight sweet children. Nicole has been a homeschool mom for thirteen years, and is currently a member of The Old Schoolhouse Review Crew. When Nicole isn’t homeschooling, you can find her writing, reading, sewing, or blogging at www.childrenareablessing.org. She is active on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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About Nicole

NICOLE CRONE enjoys writing encouragement for moms in which God is glorified at her blog, Children are a Blessing. She is wife to Rusty, and mom to eight sweet children. Nicole has been a homeschool mom for thirteen years, and is currently a member of The Old Schoolhouse Review Crew. When Nicole isn’t homeschooling, you can find her writing, reading, sewing, or blogging at www.childrenareablessing.org. She is active on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

3 Thoughts on “Love v. Fear of the Lord in a Christian Mom’s Life

  1. Danielle B on February 13, 2014 at 11:53 am said:

    Please enlighten me on your hypocrisy of celebrating Valentine’s day (a pagan holiday, and NOT in the Bible!) but yet you refuse to celebrate the birth of our Savior?

    • Sure thing Danielle. For our family, we believe that the Bible is clear that God must be worshipped in spirit and truth (John 4:24). It isn’t true that Christ was born on December 25th, and worshipping with pagan items such as trees, etc. isn’t worshipping in spirit.

      We also know that “Christmas” was once celebrated as Saturnalia which was pagan worship of the sun god, and that:

      ◾Jesus Christ was presented as the Sun of Righteousness (Malachi 4:2) replacing the sun god, Sol Invictus.

      ◾Prior to the celebration of Christmas, December 25th in the Roman world was the Natalis-Solis Invicti, the Birthday of the Unconquerable Sun, which in honor of the sun god Mithras. In 375 A.D., the Church of Rome merely announced that the birth date of Christ had been “discovered” to be December 25th, and the faithful would recognize it as such.

      In Acts 15, the Apostles were wondering what to tell the Gentiles who had become Christians to abstain from. Verse 20 says, but that we write to them to abstain from things polluted by idols, from sexual immorality, from things strangled, and from blood. We are told to turn from idol worship, not “redeem or rename” it.

      Finally, we are taught in Deuteronomy that the Lord does not want to be worshipped in anyway that false gods have been worshipped. Our family feels that celebrating Christ’s birth on Christmas is doing just that.

      “The Lord your God will cut off before you the nations you are about to invade and dispossess. But when you have driven them out and settled in their land, 30 and after they have been destroyed before you, be careful not to be ensnared by inquiring about their gods, saying, “How do these nations serve their gods? We will do the same.” 31 You must not worship the Lord your God in their way, because in worshiping their gods, they do all kinds of detestable things the Lord hates.” Deut 12:29-31

      Basically, while Valentine’s Day is not rooted in scripture, we do not see a problem with exchanging cards, flowers, candy on a day where the rest of our culture does so. We do have a problem however with mixing the worship of God with pagan traditions (which we believe Christmas does). Our family takes the worship of God seriously, and we believe that the Bible is completely sufficient regarding how and when we are to worship. I hope that this explains our take on it, blessings to you!

  2. To my knowledge, Valentine’s Day is not a pagan holiday, but was named in honor of a Christian named Valentine who defied a roman law outlawing marriage. Valentine said this law would hurt families and that no one could outlaw marriage, because it was instituted by God himself. He was eventually arrested and after refusing to renounce his faith, was executed.

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